![]() If you are anything like me, you have wondered how you got stuck with a 'bad' man, more than once. You might be so sick of relationships that you believe that all men are 'bad' or that the 'good' ones are already taken. And you think you are done with it, until you find another 'bad' man. Definition of a BAD man It may not occur to you that recognizing a 'bad' man might help in avoiding yet another crappy relationship. What are the little signs that should put you on high alert? I do not have a psychology degree, but I think between you and I, we have a lot of experience that we can put to good use! There's no doubt the thrill of their alluring qualities - like being attracted to a celebrity - they have charisma. They love being the center of attention, and when they finally take notice of you, you are thrilled. They have a lot of very important things to do that occupy their time. It makes them unavailable, or you feel you are always in competition with something, or someone. It could be golf, Friday nights with the guys, or a special club. One thing is certain, you are not invited. Hard to get guys, are preoccupied with themselves and don't want a committed relationship. He is self-centered. He takes little interest in topics that you believe are important. He expects you to agree with him or see it his way on topics ranging from politics to raising a family. He is the center of your world, not the other way around. You feel emotionally confused. You doubt how you feel - whether you should feel this way at all. It seems your emotions are constantly influx. There are others - I thought that would get us started with your questions and wisdom! Stopping the Cycle The most significant motivator for me to stop the cycle was recognizing how much pain I really felt. I had put up a good front for a long time, even fooling myself, but when I finally did allow myself to be honest I was hurting badly. And, it wasn't my fault. Feeling the pain and recognizing that it is not normal was fundamental - and it made me desperately want to change. Nice Guys Aren't the Answer THE PACK - Chapter 2 - Nothing More, Nothing Less It was like riding a rolling coaster that I could not get off of, one that I paid for at every twisted turn. There had to be more.
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